January 10, 2011
Can we reason about intimacy? Should we?
Lawrence: We can’t reason about desire. In order to have real intimacy, this requires
active involvement of both body and mind. It’s not planning, analysis, etc. – we ought to
‘think sex’. Follow our desires – but not get involved with anyone who crosses our paths.
Are our feelings natural or conventional? What are they and how should they be
expressed? What about our relationships?
Lawrence: Our feelings are conventional, not natural. Union is still an inspiring
tendency. Contemporary expressions of emotion and relationships such as marriage are
perverted by convention, we suppress our natural tendencies and experience counterfeit
feelings instead of real ones when we train our bodies and minds to accept (to see) only
appropriate feelings and expressions. Lady Chatterley gives us a way to get out of the
bounds of convention – relationship breaks the bound of convention. Lawrence wants
people to feel troubled about their complacency.
Philosophical concepts of intimacy: Union
Lawrence: Union is a natural tendency for humans who seek completion by uniting with
others in a physical and/or emotional way; natural union is an organic experience, it
allows for change as the seasons do, and natural intimate human relationships are
modeled both after the experience of union between humans and the natural world and
the internal union between body and mind. Image of the blood: builds the physical
bodily aspect, blood represents holistic image of a united human being, state of mind
humans need to follow their desires rationally.
What role does intimacy play in ‘the good life’?
Lawrence: The good life is a natural life, one in which we experience harmony between
each other, between ourselves and the world we live in and between our body and our
Halwani: 3 Kinds of Love
•Eros: sexual, erotic, passionate, romantic love
•Philia: friendship platonic, familial love – ‘love of community’
•Agape: caritas, altruistic (doing something for no return, completely unselfish),
Christian love – ideally a mother will love a child unconditionally and vice versa,
because they’re family members
oWhat’s the goal of concern? Welfare of being, relationship, your welfare,