January 10, 2011
Can we reason about intimacy? Should we?
Lawrence: We can’t reason about desire. In order to have real intimacy, this requires
active involvement of both body and mind. It’s not planning, analysis, etc. – we ought to
‘think sex’. Follow our desires – but not get involved with anyone who crosses our paths.
Are our feelings natural or conventional? What are they and how should they be
expressed? What about our relationships?
Lawrence: Our feelings are conventional, not natural. Union is still an inspiring
tendency. Contemporary expressions of emotion and relationships such as marriage are
perverted by convention, we suppress our natural tendencies and experience counterfeit
feelings instead of real ones when we train our bodies and minds to accept (to see) only
appropriate feelings and expressions. Lady Chatterley gives us a way to get out of the
bounds of convention – relationship breaks the bound of convention. Lawrence wants
people to feel troubled about their complacency.
Philosophical concepts of intimacy: Union
Lawrence: Union is a natural tendency for humans who seek completion by uniting with
others in a physica